Book Board Chat

Thanks Diane. I get to goodwill about 2x a month but ususly just buy stuff I need around the house. However the other day I did buy 2 really nice sweatgers to sell, a vintage hat, 2 wigs and 3 hair pieces new in the box some books to read, 2 vintage mini half slips, and some old booklets on different Canadian Indian tribes. and a box of vintage sewing stuff. all for 16$. I have photos up loaded to list some items and I have also been sending thngs to a local auction house just to get rid of stuff.

Finally set mother up with in home Hospice. She is in stage 7 Dementia now (final/end of life) So glad I will have someone come in to check that everything being done is correct.

mom is ok, all things considered. she is having a really hard time speaking, I not sure if she has forgotten the words or what. In the morning she is pretty good, but as the day progresses she just gets into this "lost mode" not knowing anyone or what's going on. But she is eating well and sleeping well and loves all the shows on TV we have been talking about, Andy Griffith, Murdershe wrote, Dick Van dyke and then caratoons scooby do and tom and jerry, the jetsons and the flint stones. who knew!

I sold mother's house at the Vineyard and a moving van brought everything to my garage. So I have been really working hard and tomorrow is the estate sale. I hase been two months in the making. Hope everything goes. Then i CAN GET BACK TO ebay

Diane-Furtima... Our Mom's sound alike. I didn't have much contact with mine after 15 as I went away to school then. She never really had time for me , didn't come to my Graduation or wedding. Never spent holiday with my family because she did't like little kids (They made Her Tired) I took over her finance 5 years ago and when her care reached 16,000 a month I knew I had to do something because she was running out of money. So here she is. She is a nasty mean old lady at 94, who was "happy to be rid of me" (Direct quote) when I got married at 19. The first weeks i didn't understand Dementia at all and lost my temper all the time. She is pretty deaf and I have to shout to be heard. Although i have some one here during the day I have no peace and quite because of the shouting to communicate.
Night time is hard she always ahas to get up between2-3 AM to use the bathroom. She has a big cow bell that she rings s for me. I have COPD/Ashma and lifting her on to the commodde is really hard as I can't breath and sit in her wheel chair until I recover. and she's yelling "what the Hell is the matter with you?"

As to do something for myself I'd like to, but I guess I never really had a life.. it was shopping for stuff and then ebaying it...that was my life that's where my firend were. Now I don't ebay much because I need quiet to do it. No ebay, No money, just enough to pay my bills. Use to be my favorite time of the day was getting into bed at night (around 9PM) with peace and quite and read for a couple of hours. Can't do that now because Mom doesn't want to go to be till after 10 or so. I have to sit with her and watch her as she smokes and drops the cigarettes and burns holes in things or has two lit at a time etc etc etc..

Sorry to complain with all the problems in the world, people suffering I have no right, and that makes me feel worse that I am complaining.
I guess fortunately Mom has no real physical health problems except bad knees she just has dementia.

Futima/Diane....I wish I knew how you managed to take care of your mom all those years. It has only been 3 months and I sit here crying all day. It is sad and depressing..I kind of just want my life back

Mom wants me to go over to the next road and take her mother off the transformer on the telephone. Opps she just fell in the Canal! Wow it is sure hard to get her off this subject. Now I have to get a boat and go in the water and take her out of the water.

Took me awhile to sign up here. I have been very busy with taking care of Mom. Last night was her two year old phase. Brush your teeth! No! Why? I don't want to... on and on it went getting her to bed was a sure struggle. But fortunately she slept all night and is still asleep.